5 types of Toxic People to Never keep close
1. THOSE THAT SHIFT BLAME
“People who ruin their own lives have a strong tendency to blame other people when things go wrong.”
The odds are that we’ve all encountered people like this in our life. These are the types of individuals that personify the word “victimization.” In other words, they refuse to be accountable for anything that may bestow a sense of responsibility. Instead, they’ll intently shift said responsibility onto another that does not deserve such treatment.
2. THOSE THAT ALWAYS COMPLAIN
Interacting with someone who constantly complains is difficult, as it is often almost impossible to get a word in edgewise. Here’s an advantage, though – such people are often not very rational in either their inner or outer discourse. So, just listen and seek clarification. If they do indeed have a valid complaint, it’s at your discretion whether to engage in conversation. If instead, they choose to barrage you with unsubstantiated and irrational banter verbally, (absolutely) refuse to engage in such a manner.
In other words, just walk away or ignore.
3. THOSE THAT INVITE OR INITIATE GOSSIP
“Strong minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, weak minds discuss people.”
Gossipers (probably) exist in every nook and cranny of this planet.
Often, insecurity is at the root of gossip, as divulging (often untrue) tidbits about another human being makes gossipers feel better. Sadly, such individuals often thrive off adverse circumstances that someone is often going through. They give no mind, no empathy, no desistance to offering up (again, often untrue) statements about someone whose life they may negatively affect.
In addition to harming themselves and the victim(s), gossiping can induce a negative mindset to those around them.
4. THOSE ONLY INTERESTED IN SELF-GAIN
“Givers need to set limits because takers rarely do.”
People preoccupied with the question “What’s in it for me?” are often master manipulators, and using this predisposed attitude for self-gain. In addition to possessing a flair for the manipulative, such individuals also have a strong narcissistic streak – and may very well fall under the narcissist demographic.
Regarding manipulation, self-gainers will toy with others emotions. This is done to create a sense of guilt and uneasiness with not helping the self-gainer advance their own foggy agenda. Make no mistake, self-gainers couldn’t care less about the undue harm that their actions cause. Sadly, such people see others as a means to an end – nothing more.
Throughout one’s interaction with a self-gainer, it may become apparent that they are more than willing to “take” whatever is necessary; but, should someone ask for a favor in return, their quickly rendered silent by excuses, lies, or just plain indifference.
These types of people serve nothing other than themselves. So, give them what they want – and leave it up to them to find the solution for what they need.
5. THOSE THAT SEEK COA
“Everything you do for attention is the reason why you don’t have mine.” – Unknown
Those determined to be at the center of attention (COAs) are often verbal and annoyingly persistent in their pursuit of such. COAs not only enjoy being at the center. They need it.
